When I became a mother, from the very beginning I was not excited about a ‘conventional’ life as a parent. Rather, I always pictured a bohemian style existence. I always had a scene in my mind from the movie Chocolate. In it, the heroine, played by Isobel Rosselini, blows into town in a red cape with a small girl, also in a red cape. Mysterious, outsiders, standing out against the dark…